President Donald Trump put out a statement that all mass gatherings over 10 people and are scheduled within the next 8 weeks should consider canceling or postponing. This number has changed from 50 and will, most likely change again. Even if the bride and groom want to continue and host their wedding regardless of this recommendation most venues are closing their doors in compliance with this recommendation. We know you’re scared. We know this is an uncertain time. So what is the next step? We consulted with Kate from KC Events Group and Amanda from Diamonds and Details to get some insight on how to proceed in this uncertain and stressful time.
We have interviewed a few of our preferred vendors in an effort to get some insight into how to manage at this time. We have experience in the wedding industry, however, are not medical professionals or lawyers. This blog is to give our opinions on options for to how to proceed during this uncertain time. We are not offering any official recommendations or medical expertise. The decision to cancel, pause or postpone your wedding is a decision for you to make, we do not recommend any official decisions.
With venues closing their doors some couples have been forced to cancel or provide alternatives to saying “I Do”. If you are one of those couples we understand how difficult this decision is. The very first thing that you should do as a bride or groom facing this decision head-on is to stop, take a moment and breathe. Some situations and decisions are out of your hands and venues closing are out of your control. Laura A. Peterson, R.N. at the Mayo Clinic has a wonderful article outlining the powerful tool that breathing is in stressful situations. It is a tool that we have at our disposal at all times. So put aside all the facts of your wedding preparations and sit down and focus on your breathing. Focus on what you CAN control and breathe out what you can’t control.
Another thing to remember while you’re breathing is that you are part of a couple, you are not doing this alone. Stand firm together because this is one of many moments that you will stand together in a difficult decision. Start with a list of things you will need to redirect or cancel and people you will need to contact. As you work through your list cross off each item as you go, and watch the progress you’re making as small victories. Each small victory is a step closer to the finish line.
Have you ever considered an elopement? This is something that can be planned in a very short amount of time with a minimal number of people invited. Eloping has a stigma around it where people visualize a khaki pantsuit in a dim courthouse. This is a misconception of the term and should be adjusted. Elopements and can be a beautiful occasion and does not need to be done in casual attire or at a courthouse. A courthouse is an option, as long as they remain open to the public, and you can make it a beautiful and intimate affair or you can invite a few guests out into the woods for a boho style elopement. Check out the link below for a beautiful elopement session.